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3.18.2006

My Noggin Hurts

Wherever you are in the world you can look at the clock at 9:30 am PST and you can think of me because you will know exactly what it is I am doing. I am fielding the following question: "What are we doing for kids today?"

Am I wrong or is this the question that makes you bury your head in the laundry you're folding and scream? Or in my case, duck behind your laptop screen with your mocha.

S. is in preschool two half days a week - just enough time for me to grocery shop...or lay on the floor eating cookies. But, that leaves me the other 90 hours a week to fill.

We do the library, the bookstore, the park.

I've purchased books of activities. I've arranged playdates with people whose inane conversation made me want to claw my eyes out. I've even driven my happy ass down to San Diego to visit the science museum and get chased by homeless people in the park. But, whatever activities I have planned, whatever fun S. has enjoyed, does not change the fact that the next day needs to be filled as well.

And she's totally picked up on the fact that the grocery store is not "the sticker place" just because after an hour of shopping with mom they give her a string of flourescent orange "Meals in Minutes" stickers.

Don't get the wrong idea - I'm not at her beck and call. I'm way too lazy to produce an overindulged child. What I am is a mother who lets her child watch way too much Noggin and Nick Jr. by default. I know the shows are educational, but what bothers me is not the content, its the fact that she's sitting there like a glazed donut.

The short answer is to quick! reproduce! and give the child a sibling. Well, I'm working on it.

Until then, any suggestions of how you fill your little hobbit's day would be much appreciated.

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i love your 13 things. please don't tag me i'm not creative!!!!YOU SAID:I've arranged playdates with people whose inane conversation made me want to claw my eyes out.I CANNOT STOP LAUGHING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! that was soooooooo true and ohhhh so hilarious.I thought I was the only one! I showed up at the parkdate yesterday 15 mins late and this woman says ohh that's right you're always getting lost and you're always late....WTF!?!..., i said i didn't know i had to rsvp for a parkdate!! LOLyou know we can get together anytime and I promise my conversation will be limited to baby poop and buggars. just kidding. you made my day. and ohhhh ummmm sorry I dont' have any suggestions because i'm in the same boat as you are. i fear it gets worse when they're older and can talk and can tell the difference between staying home all day disguised as fun huh????

Posted by: TANYETTA | 03/17/2006 at 09:25 AM

McDonald's and PS2 ;)

Posted by: Kimmy | 03/17/2006 at 10:12 AM

I dump them at the gym's daycare while I go work up a sweat. I take them to a free playgroup so they can run (and crawl) around, burning off steam.We go for walks, when it's not butt-fucking freezing out.We go to the mall. We go to Wal Mart. We drop in on family. We go for drives. I plop 'em in front of the TV.We play with sidewalk chalk on the patio. Anything, anything, to keep everyone happy and from clawing each other's eyes out.

Posted by: mama_tulip | 03/17/2006 at 11:11 AM

Honestly, mine went to school three days a week and stayed for lunch bunch! lolAs for having more kiddos. I did that, then the little ones end up staring at the movies in the car instead of in the house. It's all about shuttling everyone around 24/7!

Posted by: Ficklechick | 03/17/2006 at 11:26 AM

What to do with the hobbit...Hm. I did a lot of playdough and coloring with Simon. And lots of walks to the park.You know me... I don't like the playgroup thing, but now that I am in charge of one I am seeing the benefit for the kids.And... I think it is A-OK for TV time.I know. I'm a horrible Mom.

Posted by: Kelly | 03/17/2006 at 11:34 AM

And she's totally picked up on the fact that the grocery store is not "the sticker place" just because after an hour of shopping with mom they give her a string of flourescent orange "Meals in Minutes" stickers.HAHAH! Lena, you are too funny. My mom used to take me to a nearby duckpond to feed the ducks. I loved that. And then, one day in fifth grade on a field trip to that very duck pond, I threw a pebble into the water and hit a duck and some girl told on me and I had to, seriously, have a time out.Good times.

Posted by: TheIdleReceptionist | 03/17/2006 at 11:58 AM

I can't wait for Rocco to sit in front of the tv. lol He actually liked watching Wild Out on MTV the other day, but doesn’t really care for the Disney channel.I've babysat a lot in my short life so, here’s a few things I’ve done…Craft City: we’d make bird houses, nature bracelets, clay sculptures that you bake (hey you can bake), picture frames, cards to send to relatives, ugly puff paint shirts, puppets, etc etc. A good craft store always inspires me. We have a cookie decorating contests (this was my favorite), play dress up and play board games and charades. Yada Yada. One thing the kids really did like was when I’d setup obstacle courses in the back yard… like first you run around the tree 2 times, then you go own the slide, weave in and out of the strategically placed shoes, walk backwards to the fence and then kick the ball into the laundry basket. (I’d be sitting down in a lawn chair timing them)I loved making cleaning a fun game. My nieces did figure this out eventually but while it lasted it was a joy… ok lets see how fast you can pick up this room while Auntie goes outside to smoke. Ready Set Go!I could go on some more, but I’m sure I’m boring you already...

Posted by: Freakren | 03/17/2006 at 12:18 PM

I used to love feeding the ducks when I was younger too. I'm having that same problem as you are though, and mine is only 11 months old, so I'm lost completely.

Posted by: Kristen | 03/17/2006 at 12:37 PM

Mmmmm....glazed donuts, yum. I have three sitting on my couch right now! I am right there with you....where is the fine line that separates educational play and overindulgent parent vs. much needed veg time and lazy ass Mom? I am still trying to get the balance right.

Posted by: Angela | 03/17/2006 at 01:54 PM

I'm with freakren... craft craft craft projects. When I was a nanny we played in the sandbox A LOT. Mom, you can read (or bring the laptop if you have wireless that extends that far - now there's an idea). The sandbox provided hours of endless fun. I also spent a lot of time actually trying to teach her (abc's, counting, etc... whatever level she's at - counting money, adding bananas). Swimming! Swimming is great! You can swim together at a local pool.... Also, sprinklers provide the same kind of fun that sandboxes do (the kind where you can sit on the laptop out of sprinkler range). That's all I've got right now.

Posted by: Jessica | 03/17/2006 at 02:05 PM

That is why I am afraid to arrang playdates! My kids watch way to much Tv also! Having another and then another and anohter did not make planning the day any esaier;) But go for it one is just not enough:)

Posted by: mommyof4 | 03/17/2006 at 02:32 PM

I just jingle my keys at them. They're usually cool with that.Oh, and I may have said this before, but I am DONE posting abouting Helen Keller (for real this time). It's so close to not being funny anymore.

Posted by: blog Portland | 03/17/2006 at 03:32 PM

Hey, go to this blog for more ideas:http://phatmommy.com/

Posted by: Jessica | 03/17/2006 at 07:16 PM

I have no ideas because I'm in the same boat. Everyday they ask me to do something FUN and I have no clue. ~sigh~My kids watch far to much TV and I have started turning it off, to make them play more. It works but then there's the yelling. Fun.I like your ideas Mama Tulip...

Posted by: Virenda | 03/17/2006 at 08:17 PM

fingerpaint with pudding. preschool is always a great idea. color wonder is my best friend.have her play with your hair.rub lotion on your feet. after that its bedtime, rofl!!

Posted by: Mrs. Fun | 03/17/2006 at 09:46 PM

LOL....yeah those homeless people down at Balboa Park totally freak me out!!!!

Posted by: Mama B | 03/17/2006 at 11:01 PM

Raising my hand! OHYEAH!!!!! I've felt in a HUGE mom funk. I finally found a local rec center that has an indoor pool with this RAD play area in the water. WE go twice a week, he now does soccer once a week, and yes we do a playgroup. It does make me want to claw my eyes out but it's better than sitting around the house going coo coo. I hear ya on the t.v. But I don't think there is anything wrong with some t.v. time because you need a moment to do such fabulous things as pee and so forth.Find your local community center or sign her up for a class that meets during the day? We have the smallest budget but it has helped my sanity. Seriously.

Posted by: Kdubs | 03/18/2006 at 06:11 AM

Ummm....Hello?? Cheese Wiz! Have I taught you nothing?

Posted by: Smom | 03/18/2006 at 07:20 AM

Ouch, you are quite convicting (shy types as her boys are fighting over a PS2 video game).I HATE those kind of playdates! Maybe why my boys haven't had too many. Brain drain small talk...My kids color, that lasts about 30 seconds. I did make them some Flubber a few weeks ago, that kept them creatively quiet for about an hour. I get small things at the dollar store, come home and put them in my "desperation bag". Whip out something when I'm desperate for some alone time, and whamo, they're off and not bothering me for a while.I'm not a "natural mommy". I try to be a good one, but I'm so tired...

Posted by: Momma M | 03/18/2006 at 08:56 AM

Jessica sent me and I'm glad she did. Hmmm, when my kids were little the world was still safe and we lived in the country. Often they would wander through the woods with the dog or any number of stray cats and hike over the hills and sometime late in the afternoon about the time it dawned on my that they were missing in action, I would get a call from a farmer a couple of miles away asking me if they belonged to me. Oh, I tried really hard to make them sit and watch TV, but they insisted I read to them or tell them ghost stories or give them paper and paint so they could cover the refrigerator with pictures. Then one night, I discovered that they had taken their own baths, put on their own jammies, brushed their teeth and tucked themselves into bed. Whew, I guess I had it easy.

Posted by: Stephen Newton | 03/18/2006 at 06:28 PM

I'm reading this because I'm STUCK. I do the same kind of things - I got these discovery book things with stickers and a cd that come every month and she goes through it in about 2 minutes.She broke her leg on Friday so um no walks (in the stroller, yes) - and boy is it BORING.

Posted by: Kristen | 03/18/2006 at 08:29 PM

Free play groups rock. I have friends who've enrolled their 2-year-olds in all kinds of classes and I just think that's useless when you can do that stuff for free. Mine meets once a week. I was in one last year with too many bitches, so I started my own and only invited the nice moms. Heh. Revenge is sweet!I always pick up the local parenting magazine because it has a calendar in the back with all the child-friendly activities going on for the month. You wouldn't believe how much there is to do.Um. Window markers. Crayola makes them and they're so cool. You can draw on the windows and then wash it off later.Oh yeah and I keep toys in rotation. Toys appear and disappear every few weeks (or months) and when they come back out, they're like new! And yet better! Because she remembers how much fun they were!

Posted by: Lucinda | 03/18/2006 at 08:35 PM

You know, I thought that as I read through all the comments, there would be nothing left for me to add ... being as I'm late to the party and all. However, not a single person here mentioned board games, playing cards, or reading. I love playing Racko, Rummy, Othello, Scrabble, and Yahtzee with my kids. I cannot stand Monopoly though ... it takes too damn long and bores me to tears. I read voraciously as a child. I lived for our weekly trip to the library; it was the highlight of my life. You may find that sad, but I'm right proud to state it true. I loved to read as a kid, and I still do. Reading is fun, it increases ones vocabulary, and enhances the imagination. If your child doesn't think so, then it is your job to help them find reading material that interests them ... even if it's simply comic books or magazines.And there ya have it ... *heh* Guess I had something to add afterall.P.S. The ideas already mentioned that I enjoy doing with my kids too, were coloring and crafts. Of course, I'm occasionally up for a game of tag as well.Have a teriffic weekend, Lena!Love ya bunches!

Posted by: ~ Stacy ~ | 03/18/2006 at 09:35 PM

I am in the same boat. And I wonder if I bring the pressure on myself. But here's the suck ass thing for me, my kid doesn't like TV. She loved the Baby Einsteins for awhile and all was well but now she no longer cares. She won't watch Sesame Street or cartoons. What's wrong with her? Doesn't she understand that TV is one of the best drugs around?

Posted by: Stefanie | 03/19/2006 at 12:02 PM

In France, kids go to school at 3 (for half a day) then full day when they're 4.I lived Wayyyy out in the middle of nowhere in the countryside. So lots of nature walks and when it was too cold, playtime inside. My kids always took nice afternoon naps so I could have at least two hours for myself in the afternoon. And even if they didn't sleep they spent 2 hours in their beds playing quietly.

Posted by: Sam | 03/20/2006 at 12:01 AM

BP - You can't stop now, its kinda like Kenny being killed every Southpark.My mom also would frequently kick me outside. And even when I came back in it was, "Go outside and play! NOW!!" I'd make weed stews in buckets with mud and climb trees and take my toys outside for epic lawn adventures and pretend I was one of the protagonists from Honey I Shrunk the Kids JUST. TRYING. TO MAKE IT. TO. THE. FLAGSTONE.

Posted by: TheIdleReceptionist | 03/20/2006 at 08:52 AM

TANYETTA said...

i love your 13 things. please don't tag me i'm not creative!!!!YOU SAID:I've arranged playdates with people whose inane conversation made me want to claw my eyes out.I CANNOT STOP LAUGHING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! that was soooooooo true and ohhhh so hilarious.I thought I was the only one! I showed up at the parkdate yesterday 15 mins late and this woman says ohh that's right you're always getting lost and you're always late....WTF!?!..., i said i didn't know i had to rsvp for a parkdate!! LOLyou know we can get together anytime and I promise my conversation will be limited to baby poop and buggars. just kidding. you made my day. and ohhhh ummmm sorry I dont' have any suggestions because i'm in the same boat as you are. i fear it gets worse when they're older and can talk and can tell the difference between staying home all day disguised as fun huh????

Kimmy said...

McDonald's and PS2 ;)

mama_tulip said...

I dump them at the gym's daycare while I go work up a sweat. I take them to a free playgroup so they can run (and crawl) around, burning off steam.We go for walks, when it's not butt-fucking freezing out.We go to the mall. We go to Wal Mart. We drop in on family. We go for drives. I plop 'em in front of the TV.We play with sidewalk chalk on the patio. Anything, anything, to keep everyone happy and from clawing each other's eyes out.

Posted by: mI dump them at the gym's daycare while I go work up a sweat. I take them to a free playgroup so they can run (and crawl) around, burning off steam.We go for walks, when it's not butt-fucking freezing out.We go to the mall. We go to Wal Mart. We drop in on family. We go for drives. I plop 'em in front of the TV.We play with sidewalk chalk on the patio. Anything, anything, to keep everyone happy and from clawing each other's eyes out.

Ficklechick said...

Honestly, mine went to school three days a week and stayed for lunch bunch! lolAs for having more kiddos. I did that, then the little ones end up staring at the movies in the car instead of in the house. It's all about shuttling everyone around 24/7!

Kelly said...

What to do with the hobbit...Hm. I did a lot of playdough and coloring with Simon. And lots of walks to the park.You know me... I don't like the playgroup thing, but now that I am in charge of one I am seeing the benefit for the kids.And... I think it is A-OK for TV time.I know. I'm a horrible Mom.

TheIdleReceptionist said...

And she's totally picked up on the fact that the grocery store is not "the sticker place" just because after an hour of shopping with mom they give her a string of flourescent orange "Meals in Minutes" stickers.HAHAH! Lena, you are too funny. My mom used to take me to a nearby duckpond to feed the ducks. I loved that. And then, one day in fifth grade on a field trip to that very duck pond, I threw a pebble into the water and hit a duck and some girl told on me and I had to, seriously, have a time out.Good times.

Freakren said...

I can't wait for Rocco to sit in front of the tv. lol He actually liked watching Wild Out on MTV the other day, but doesn’t really care for the Disney channel.I've babysat a lot in my short life so, here’s a few things I’ve done…Craft City: we’d make bird houses, nature bracelets, clay sculptures that you bake (hey you can bake), picture frames, cards to send to relatives, ugly puff paint shirts, puppets, etc etc. A good craft store always inspires me. We have a cookie decorating contests (this was my favorite), play dress up and play board games and charades. Yada Yada. One thing the kids really did like was when I’d setup obstacle courses in the back yard… like first you run around the tree 2 times, then you go own the slide, weave in and out of the strategically placed shoes, walk backwards to the fence and then kick the ball into the laundry basket. (I’d be sitting down in a lawn chair timing them)I loved making cleaning a fun game. My nieces did figure this out eventually but while it lasted it was a joy… ok lets see how fast you can pick up this room while Auntie goes outside to smoke. Ready Set Go!I could go on some more, but I’m sure I’m boring you already...

Kristen said...

I used to love feeding the ducks when I was younger too. I'm having that same problem as you are though, and mine is only 11 months old, so I'm lost completely.

Angela said...

Mmmmm....glazed donuts, yum. I have three sitting on my couch right now! I am right there with you....where is the fine line that separates educational play and overindulgent parent vs. much needed veg time and lazy ass Mom? I am still trying to get the balance right.

Jessica said...

I'm with freakren... craft craft craft projects. When I was a nanny we played in the sandbox A LOT. Mom, you can read (or bring the laptop if you have wireless that extends that far - now there's an idea). The sandbox provided hours of endless fun. I also spent a lot of time actually trying to teach her (abc's, counting, etc... whatever level she's at - counting money, adding bananas). Swimming! Swimming is great! You can swim together at a local pool.... Also, sprinklers provide the same kind of fun that sandboxes do (the kind where you can sit on the laptop out of sprinkler range). That's all I've got right now.

mommyof4 said...

That is why I am afraid to arrang playdates! My kids watch way to much Tv also! Having another and then another and anohter did not make planning the day any esaier;) But go for it one is just not enough:)

blog Portland said...

I just jingle my keys at them. They're usually cool with that.Oh, and I may have said this before, but I am DONE posting abouting Helen Keller (for real this time). It's so close to not being funny anymore.

Virenda said...

have no ideas because I'm in the same boat. Everyday they ask me to do something FUN and I have no clue. ~sigh~My kids watch far to much TV and I have started turning it off, to make them play more. It works but then there's the yelling. Fun.I like your ideas Mama Tulip...

Mrs. Fun said...

fingerpaint with pudding. preschool is always a great idea. color wonder is my best friend.have her play with your hair.rub lotion on your feet. after that its bedtime, rofl!!

Mama B said...

LOL....yeah those homeless people down at Balboa Park totally freak me out!!!!

Kdubs said...

Raising my hand! OHYEAH!!!!! I've felt in a HUGE mom funk. I finally found a local rec center that has an indoor pool with this RAD play area in the water. WE go twice a week, he now does soccer once a week, and yes we do a playgroup. It does make me want to claw my eyes out but it's better than sitting around the house going coo coo. I hear ya on the t.v. But I don't think there is anything wrong with some t.v. time because you need a moment to do such fabulous things as pee and so forth.Find your local community center or sign her up for a class that meets during the day? We have the smallest budget but it has helped my sanity. Seriously.

Smom said...

Ummm....Hello?? Cheese Wiz! Have I taught you nothing?

Momma M said...

Ouch, you are quite convicting (shy types as her boys are fighting over a PS2 video game).I HATE those kind of playdates! Maybe why my boys haven't had too many. Brain drain small talk...My kids color, that lasts about 30 seconds. I did make them some Flubber a few weeks ago, that kept them creatively quiet for about an hour. I get small things at the dollar store, come home and put them in my "desperation bag". Whip out something when I'm desperate for some alone time, and whamo, they're off and not bothering me for a while.I'm not a "natural mommy". I try to be a good one, but I'm so tired...

Anonymous said...

Jessica sent me and I'm glad she did. Hmmm, when my kids were little the world was still safe and we lived in the country. Often they would wander through the woods with the dog or any number of stray cats and hike over the hills and sometime late in the afternoon about the time it dawned on my that they were missing in action, I would get a call from a farmer a couple of miles away asking me if they belonged to me. Oh, I tried really hard to make them sit and watch TV, but they insisted I read to them or tell them ghost stories or give them paper and paint so they could cover the refrigerator with pictures. Then one night, I discovered that they had taken their own baths, put on their own jammies, brushed their teeth and tucked themselves into bed. Whew, I guess I had it easy.

Kristen said...

'm reading this because I'm STUCK. I do the same kind of things - I got these discovery book things with stickers and a cd that come every month and she goes through it in about 2 minutes.She broke her leg on Friday so um no walks (in the stroller, yes) - and boy is it BORING.

Lucinda said...

Free play groups rock. I have friends who've enrolled their 2-year-olds in all kinds of classes and I just think that's useless when you can do that stuff for free. Mine meets once a week. I was in one last year with too many bitches, so I started my own and only invited the nice moms. Heh. Revenge is sweet!I always pick up the local parenting magazine because it has a calendar in the back with all the child-friendly activities going on for the month. You wouldn't believe how much there is to do.Um. Window markers. Crayola makes them and they're so cool. You can draw on the windows and then wash it off later.Oh yeah and I keep toys in rotation. Toys appear and disappear every few weeks (or months) and when they come back out, they're like new! And yet better! Because she remembers how much fun they were!

Stacy said...

You know, I thought that as I read through all the comments, there would be nothing left for me to add ... being as I'm late to the party and all. However, not a single person here mentioned board games, playing cards, or reading. I love playing Racko, Rummy, Othello, Scrabble, and Yahtzee with my kids. I cannot stand Monopoly though ... it takes too damn long and bores me to tears. I read voraciously as a child. I lived for our weekly trip to the library; it was the highlight of my life. You may find that sad, but I'm right proud to state it true. I loved to read as a kid, and I still do. Reading is fun, it increases ones vocabulary, and enhances the imagination. If your child doesn't think so, then it is your job to help them find reading material that interests them ... even if it's simply comic books or magazines.And there ya have it ... *heh* Guess I had something to add afterall.P.S. The ideas already mentioned that I enjoy doing with my kids too, were coloring and crafts. Of course, I'm occasionally up for a game of tag as well.Have a teriffic weekend, Lena!Love ya bunches!

Stefanie said...

am in the same boat. And I wonder if I bring the pressure on myself. But here's the suck ass thing for me, my kid doesn't like TV. She loved the Baby Einsteins for awhile and all was well but now she no longer cares. She won't watch Sesame Street or cartoons. What's wrong with her? Doesn't she understand that TV is one of the best drugs around?

Sam said...

In France, kids go to school at 3 (for half a day) then full day when they're 4.I lived Wayyyy out in the middle of nowhere in the countryside. So lots of nature walks and when it was too cold, playtime inside. My kids always took nice afternoon naps so I could have at least two hours for myself in the afternoon. And even if they didn't sleep they spent 2 hours in their beds playing quietly.

TheIdleReceptionist said...

BP - You can't stop now, its kinda like Kenny being killed every Southpark.My mom also would frequently kick me outside. And even when I came back in it was, "Go outside and play! NOW!!" I'd make weed stews in buckets with mud and climb trees and take my toys outside for epic lawn adventures and pretend I was one of the protagonists from Honey I Shrunk the Kids JUST. TRYING. TO MAKE IT. TO. THE. FLAGSTONE.


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