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3.20.2006

Do I Bore You Too?

Are you ever interrupted while telling your husband a story?

Once the outside distraction passes, do you ever not pick up where you left off in your story on purpose just to see if he was listening?

Does he ever then bring up a whole new subject without even noticing that you have not finished your story? That you were not even close to finishing? That you were actually interrupted by the waitress mid-sentence?

Do you ever not bother to tell him, thinking at any minute he'll remember and say 'I'm sorry honey. You were saying?'?

Do you ever sit there and grow more irritated by the fact that he never notices?

Do you then wonder if he ever really listens to you?

Does he then wonder why you're suddenly bitchy for the rest of Sunday brunch?


Yeah. Me neither.

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LENA this is some funny POO. I feel the same way and I've done the "experiment" myself to no FREAKING avail and that makes me sad. Sad and angry and where is my f'ing chocolate?!

Posted by: Virenda | 03/19/2006 at 10:03 PM

I never have this problem with Joey. I never talk to him while he's looking directly at me. And he never interrupts me asking me a completely unrelated question. And I never have to ask him if he has any idea what I'm talking about. Yeah. Right.

Posted by: R. Robyn | 03/19/2006 at 11:13 PM

LOL! This morning I was sitting on the bed in front of hubby telling him a story when he craned his neck to see the TV behind me.I'm like "You want to watch the TV?" (in a tone of voice that meant 'you want a knuckle sandwich?') He blinked and said, "I'm listening to you!" I forget that he likes to do several things at once. Like my son Sebi. You think he's not listening but he really is. I hate people like that. I have to look directly at someone or I don't even hear him, lol.

Posted by: Sam | 03/19/2006 at 11:57 PM

YES! I hate it, and it depresses the crap right out of me. It's so nice to hear that I'm not the only one...sometimes I think I live with the most selfish man EVER. :(

Posted by: Lisa | 03/20/2006 at 04:55 AM

LOL! I guess you can't wonder when it happens a ll the time;)

Posted by: mommyof4 | 03/20/2006 at 05:18 AM

My husband straight up tells me sometimes that my stories are boring, and so then I finish them louder and slower just for his benefit.Men.

Posted by: Marcia | 03/20/2006 at 05:35 AM

Sometimes I'll ask a question, just to see if my husband's paying attention. He has annoyingly good recall and can recite word-for-word what I've said, even while he's been thinking of something else the entire time, so it's difficult to nab him. But I know it's happening. And, yes, the situation you described has happened plenty of times. Though, to be fair, I've probably done it to him on occasion.

Posted by: Caryn | 03/20/2006 at 06:44 AM

No.Because I already know that my husband never listens to me. It's a well documented fact. I tell him something, and refer to it two minutes later. He has no clue what I'm referring to, and will swear to the death that I never said anything. Grrrr!

Posted by: Ficklechick | 03/20/2006 at 07:10 AM

I think Marcia's got the right idea.And are trying to say that this ONLY happens to you on a Sunday?

Posted by: debbiecakes | 03/20/2006 at 07:55 AM

Yeah, this is a daily occurrence at the Cassara household. But I say, “Are you listening to me? Really? Ok, repeat what I just said then!”Funny part is that I’m normally then one doing the toning out. ;oP

Posted by: Freakren | 03/20/2006 at 08:46 AM

My boyfriend literally leans his head back and makes snoring noises when I start to tell a story.

Posted by: TheIdleReceptionist | 03/20/2006 at 08:46 AM

It's nice to know I'm not the only person this happens to! My husband gets so into watching movies, or television that he completely drowns me out. Once I realize he isn't listening I usually give up. Sometimes it would be easier to talk to the wall.

Posted by: Undercover Angel | 03/20/2006 at 10:18 AM

Reason 173... why I'm not married ;)

Posted by: Kimmy | 03/20/2006 at 10:49 AM

I think I do this to my husband more than he does it to me. He, on the other hand forgets everything I tell him and confuses me with other people. He'll say... I saw that movie with my friend Dan"... and I'll be like "WTF, you saw that movie with me!!" Anyway, best bet, is to not allow the resentment to build. Just tell him it hurts your feelings when this happens. He'll probably be shocked when you can give him 105 examples of when it has happened in the past.

Posted by: Jessica | 03/20/2006 at 10:56 AM

Yep. Sadly, I have been there. But I must say that I've occasionally been the bored one, too. In fact, lately, I just close my eyes and pretend to snore when he brings up the Bruins...or orchestral music (I mean, what the...?!?). I am evil. Hey, if you can't do that after knowing a person for 17 years, something's wrong.I'm not saying it's ok! Especially when THEY do it to US!I think I'm just digging myself deeper, right?I'll shut up now.

Posted by: Tree | 03/20/2006 at 11:41 AM

We must be married to the same man. I swear I'm not halfway through my first fucking sentence and Dave's already telling me about some computer he saw on the side of the road on his way home from work.

Posted by: mama_tulip | 03/20/2006 at 12:47 PM

Oh God, the guilt...THE GUILT! See, in this instance, I am the non-listening man. My poor husband. Sometimes I have to focus so hard to listen to him that it actually feels like I'm injuring important parts of my brain.Please don't tell him I said that.

Posted by: Jess Riley | 03/20/2006 at 01:29 PM

Unfortunately I am the one not the hubby. I am so bad that he will shut down and walk away. It is one of my very worse faults.

Posted by: Reverberate58 | 03/20/2006 at 06:12 PM

Oh yeah! I've tested. He failed. Over and over again. Why do I bother?

Posted by: Faith | 03/20/2006 at 06:47 PM

my husband just gets a glazed look in his eyes and leaves the room. while. i'm. talking.

Posted by: HolyMama! | 03/20/2006 at 08:57 PM

He's actually about as close to a perfect superhero husband as you can get. I just need to knock him down a peg now and then.You know. So, he doesn't leave me. ;)

Posted by: Lena | 03/20/2006 at 10:47 PM

Just make sure that every 10th word you say is either "nipple" or "fetish," and you will never lose our attention.

Posted by: blog Portland | 03/20/2006 at 10:50 PM

Did you say something?

Posted by: Chris | 03/20/2006 at 10:58 PM

Yup, been there ... often.I get totally snarky over this one. When he interupts or looks away I say, Stacy: "Um, I wasn't like, talking or anything."Bob: "I'm sorry. You were saying?"Stacy: "Forget it. I don't feel like telling you now."Bob: "I was listening, Dear, really I was. Please finish.Stacy: "You know, I kinda rather prefer it when people actually look at me when I'm holding a conversation with them. I find that rather respectful, don't you?"Bob: (looking rather nervous) "Um ... really. I'm sorry, I'll pay attention now. Please finish."Stacy: "Hmph. Maybe later."*sheepish smile*Is that wrong of me? I give him my undivided attention when he drolls on and on. Is it too much to ask that he bow at my feet when I speak to him?

Posted by: ~ stacy ~ | 03/21/2006 at 08:21 AM

I'm sorry what....uh, huh, nodding yes....watching tv while typing...

Posted by: Ditsy Chick | 03/21/2006 at 09:09 PM

All the time, Lena, all the time. That's mainly why I started blogging. I had too many stories to tell, and no one wanted to listen, especially the husband.

Posted by: Chic Mommy | 03/21/2006 at 10:09 PM

I think men are from another planet where they only exist, they make up their own stupid world where women no matter what race or color are stupid, and they always try to put them down.
my husband never listens to me, he is a psychiatrist, I think I would have to make an appointment, so he can listen to me once in his life. I want to get divorce, if I have a man with me that is called husband then what's the point?
silvana alva

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